Children love to fight each other

If you stay out of your children’s fights, they will be more ingenious and self-reliant in resolving their disagreements. Do not spend too much time and energy on the negative aspects of your children’s relationships. Whenever there is a negative situation, deal with it as soon as you can and move on to better things.

Focus on what the children can do together rather than what they are not willing to do. You cannot get both children to co-operate when they are set on winning their fight.

When your children fight over watching television, fix a schedule for them to take turns rather than trying to reason with them on how to share.

When one child protests over what the other is getting, listen and reflect on what he/she is feeling. Do not give your opinion or try to change their mind. Just listen without comment.Children need to learn how to co-operate with one another.

Play games with your children that allow them to help one another achieve their goals. Instead of getting the children to compete with one another, let them help each other to collect as many points as possible to win prizes.

Highlight to them that it feels good to work together instead of fighting with one another.

Great ideas superbike. I have two boys at home and its a constant struggle to keep them off each other, every little word or action triggers off a fight. I have tried giving them different rooms, different schedules but to no avail, they'll still find ways to be at loggerheads.

You are right, instead of trying to reason out everytime, its always better to diffuse the situations by offering alternatives. I think the problem is more accute when there isn't much age difference between the siblings.

I have two grandsons 1 year apart that are always at each other. The oldest is more physical and will put his brother in a headlock, while his brother screams bloody murder. The younger boy likes to have the last word all the time, which gets him hit by his brother.

My daughter has tried to talk to them about getting along and keeping your hands to yourself. She has seperated the boys and it still doesn't help.

I am concerned that the oldest boy will hurt his brother and we have been informed the younger boy will treat a child in his class the way his brother treats him at home.

Any suggestions on how to help the older boy understand that this is not acceptable behavior?

Children will fight with their siblings, come what may. But, they become friends again. It is a part and parcel of life and of growing. Children should grow in a natural way. Let them fight, let them play. That's the only way to grow.

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While it's natural for some sibling rivalry make sure it doesn't get out of hand though.

There are times that kids do this because one of them feels that they are being neglected by the parent and that the parent prefers one over the other. If this is the situation action must be taken.

However, if this problem occurs in a classroom setting it might be that one kid is insecure about themselves and feels the need to pick on another.

It is common in all house holds that children fight with their brothers and sisters. It is part of healthy growing up. But, they become friends immediately. All this is a part of the growth story of children.